Ever felt brushed off by a doctor? Maybe they said your pain or tiredness is “all in your head” or just chalked it up to stress. If that sounds familiar, you’ve probably faced what’s known as medical gaslighting. It’s a tough spot to be in, feeling unheard and invalidated, especially when seeking help. But hey, you’re not alone, and there’s hope.
Dr. Efrat Lamandre recently shared some wisdom on Pix 11’s New York Living that’s too good not to pass on. Let’s dive into what medical gaslighting is and how you can be your own advocate in the healthcare system.
What’s Medical Gaslighting, Anyway?
Emotions can often run high when it comes to health. It’s not just about not feeling well; it’s the frustration that comes when you’re not being heard. Dr. E describes medical gaslighting as a medical provider who “dismisses or downplays your symptoms or concerns.” It’s like being told the noise you keep hearing is just the wind when you know there’s more to it.
Dr. E asserts that the response from your provider should be, “I believe you, let’s explore this,” rather than pointing to hormones, age, or other factors as a brush-off.
Trusting Your Gut
It can be disheartening when tests and images don’t show anything wrong, yet something inside tells you there’s an issue. Here’s where Dr. E’s message rings loud and clear: trust your gut. “If you know something is wrong, you have to keep going,” she advises. Don’t let anger steer the ship, though, because that backfires. Instead, ask questions, seek another opinion, and don’t shy away from alternative or integrative options.
Keep a Journal
One of the most actionable pieces of advice Dr. E offers is to keep a journal of your symptoms. “Having a journal will help you know your pattern and communicate what’s going on better,” she says. This helps you present clear, organized information to your healthcare provider, making it harder for them to dismiss your concerns.
Don’t Fear Google
While looking up symptoms online can sometimes cause anxiety, Dr. E believes it can also empower you. She says, “I think it’s great to be an informed patient. It allows you to take a moment, research, and then come into the exam room as an informed patient, empowered.” Just make sure your internet research supplements your medical consultations, not replaces them.
Choosing the Right Provider
When looking for a healthcare provider, credentials are important, but even more crucial is finding someone who listens. Dr. E advises, “What’s important is someone who listens, believes you, and if they don’t have the answers, is willing to collaborate with other specialists that can help you get the answers you need.”
The Power of Collaboration
Don’t underestimate the power of multiple medical opinions. Dr. E shares, “You need a lot of minds sometimes to come up with an answer. Collaborating is important.” If one doctor can’t find the solution, another might, especially when there is open communication and a willingness to work together.
Final Thoughts
Empower yourself in your healthcare journey. If you feel dismissed or not taken seriously, trust your instincts, keep detailed notes, and seek out healthcare providers who will listen and collaborate. By doing this, you ensure that you’re not just a passive recipient of care but an active participant in your health. Remember, you know your body best. Keep pushing until you find the answers you need.
